The Internal Critic
You are too tall.
You will never pass.
You are ugly.
Everyone is staring/laughing at you.
Blah, blah, blah and blah.
We all have it. That
nagging little voice that plays on your doubts and fears. It’s your internal critic.
You know what I’m talking about.
That voice that creeps out of the quiet corners of your mind
to wreak havoc on your confidence and internal calm.
Like a cartoon demon that sits on your shoulder, whispering
in your ear.
They will never hire someone like you.
Your nothing more than a freak in drag.
It’s not enough that we have dysphoria, discrimination, and
outright hatred to deal with, we have part of ourselves that seems to have a vested
interest in our personal failure and misery.
He/She doesn’t really love you.
There is something wrong with you.
So what can we do to combat this critic?
Psychology
Today has an article that suggests that we take several steps to “identify”
not only the messenger but the message as well.
Personally, I like the advice that my Therapist gave
me. She had a very direct approach to
that little voice.
She said to go tell it to “go fuck itself”.
Wikipedia
recommends that you treat it as an enemy to be ignored, dismissed, fought against,
or overcome.
My fiancĂ© and I are constantly trying to get us to ignore the voice that tells us that we are fat or ugly. I have lost the number of times I have told her that she isn’t fat and yes, she is beautiful (and yes, she is trans like me).
She has the hardest time believing me. She says that I have a biased opinion.
Of course I do, but I would not lie to her. If she picks out an ugly sweater or top, I
tell her to try something else.
In the end you must ask yourself "who should I listen
to?"
The person who loves you more than life itself or the evil
little voice that causes you to doubt yourself?
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or it’s content? Please contact me at IronicallyMeeka@gmail.com.
Thank you for reading.
Meeka
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